A noted child psychologist, Alan Wolfelt said, "Anyone old enough to love is old enough to grieve." I love this quote, probably because time and time again, I've had people ask me if I really understood what happened. In an article by Karen Carney, called "Children and Grief" she writes, "Some adults, perhaps to protect … Continue reading Grieving
Columbine/Sibling Loss
Recommitment
The summer before John died, we went back to Wisconsin to visit for a couple weeks. When we lived there, my brothers and I were really close with the all of the neighborhood kids. We were a little clan that ran around the cul-de-sac. We would try to reconnect with all of our friends when … Continue reading Recommitment
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Calling Evil by it’s name.
In wake of today's horrific shooting, I know many people will want to blame gun control, extremism, mental illness or whatever other excuses our society comes up with for none other than EVIL. Even Christians are hesitant to use the word evil. Why is that? The definition of the word evil is "profoundly immoral and … Continue reading Calling Evil by it’s name.
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John
After someone you love is gone, you rarely get the opportunity to talk about them anymore. You don't want to make your friends feel awkward and frankly, after time, you just don't have any new memories or stories to share. This is what I miss; John being a part of my life now. New people … Continue reading John
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The Library
Throughout the years I've often wondered what John was thinking or feeling that day in the library. At Leawood Elementary School they told my parents that most of the killing was done in the library.My mom knew that John went to the library to work on his homework during lunch because he had an after … Continue reading The Library
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The funeral.
We had a memorial service for John at Foothills Bible Church. I think John's was one of the first funerals out of all of those killed. We drove in a limo to the service. It would have been cool, if we weren't going to my brother's funeral. As we exited the limo, there were … Continue reading The funeral.
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Saying goodbye.
The next few days, weeks and months were covered in a haze of shock, intense grief, and media. I remember asking my mom on Tuesday night, the night of the shooting, if I had to go to school the next day. I don't think I went to school for about a month afterward. It was … Continue reading Saying goodbye.
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A Sister’s Journey
On April 20th, 1999 my world was forever changed.
Ashley Glader 